A few weeks ago, our Marriage & Family pastor asked us to share with each other and the group our most defining family values.
One couple shared how spending time together was a priority for them, that they carried out by eating meals together, going through bedtime routines together as a family, and reading a Bible story together and praying just before lights out.
Another couple shared that being on the same page financially was most important for them as a couple.
I didn't have a good answer right off the top of my head, but the question continued to percolate in my mind during the subsequent church service.
I came up with three major categories that interrelate and overlap:
GRACE IN ACTION
- We speak often of God's grace
- We give grace to each other just as God has given to us
- Mistakes are nothing to be ashamed of, for they are part of being human and are how we learn
- When we fall short, we help each other meet the standard
- We cheer each other's successes
- We encourage each other toward greater capability and independence
LOVING & RESPECTFUL RELATIONSHIPS
- We express our love to each other frequently through words and affection
- We speak up about what is OK and what is not OK
- We set limits using kind words in a firm voice
- We let our yes be yes and our no be no by following through on what we say
- We respect boundaries that are set by one another
- We act considerately and compassionately toward one another
- We laugh and play together
- We choose healthful food
- We are mindful of and attempt to minimize exposure to/intake of chemicals and processed foods
- We foster healthy body images
- We take care of our bodies with movement, outdoor time and good hygiene
- We nurture our souls and spirits with arts, hobbies, and community involvement