Share control with children so they can develop skill to have power over their own lives.
1) Teach life skills
2) Focus on solutions together.
3) Have faith in your children.
4) Let go (in small steps).
5) Increase self awareness by asking, "How do you feel? What do you think? How does this affect what you want in your life?"
Teach self-reliance instead of dependence on others. Encouragement invites self-evaluation. Praise invites children to become "approval junkies."